Before we label a child defiant or difficult, what might we be missing? Why repeated behavior deserves a closer look, how to investigate the task first, and how compassion and accountability belong together.
"But they KNOW this!" Sometimes what we mean is I've seen them do it before. This post unpacks the real difference between knowing, performing, and independently applying a skill — and why that gap matters so much.
Avoidance often isn't defiance — it's protection. "I won't" can really mean "I can't do this the way you're asking." A look at what struggling to learn actually looks like, and why curiosity beats frustration every time.